去德黑兰不能穿靴子,不能跟同性、异性拉手、拥抱,不能穿短过膝盖的外套,不能穿紧身裤,不能... 没有酒, 没有笑容....
看到一些伊朗的照片,触目惊心。第一张是女警察(她们都是穿黑的带枪阿婆)处罚穿靴子的女子。
下面两张都是吊死同性恋的, 另外一张是用石头打死一个通奸的女子。
- posted on 02/08/2009
Love Finds a Way in Iran: 'Temporary Marriage'
By ELAINE SCIOLINO
A dossier with the records of temporary marriages. The photo was taken from the records of a marriage registrar office in Tehran. The two big X's show that the time of marriage has expired.
TEHRAN, Iran — For five years, Maryam, the hairdresser, and Karim, the home appliance salesman, carried on a love affair, meeting secretly at the house where Karim lived with his parents. The young couple's relationship was officially sanctioned by Iran's Islamic Republic, even though unmarried couples who have sex or even date and hold hands can be arrested, fined, even flogged. That is because Maryam and Karim were married.
Sort of.
They had a valid contract of temporary marriage.
Iran is a country where rules are fluid, where people of all classes and degrees of religiosity pride themselves on finding loopholes in the Islamic system. Temporary marriage, or sigheh, is one of the oddest and biggest.
The practice of temporary marriage is said to have existed during the lifetime of Muhammad, who is believed to have recommended it to his companions and soldiers. The majority Sunni sect in Islam banned it; the minority Shiite sect did not. Historically, the practice was used most frequently in Iran by pilgrims in Shiite shrine cities like Meshed and Qum. Pilgrims who traveled had sexual needs, the argument went. Temporary marriage was a legal way to satisfy them.
Maryam and Karim chose temporary marriage for a practical reason. "We went out a lot together, and I didn't want to get into trouble," Maryam, 31, said. "We wanted to have documents so that if we were stopped on the street we could prove we weren't doing anything illegal."
Their "marriage" ritual was simple. Even though they could have sealed the contract privately, they went to a cleric in a marriage registry office in Tehran with their photographs and identity papers. Maryam had been forced into a loveless marriage at 15 to an opium-smoking, womanizing factory owner nearly two decades her senior who divorced her nine years later; so she brought along her divorce decree. If she had been a virgin, she would have needed her father's permission to marry.
The couple could have gotten married for as short a time as a few minutes or as long as 99 years. They could have specified whether and how much money Maryam would be paid as a kind of dowry, or how much time they would spend together. Instead, they decided on a straightforward contract of six months, which they renewed again and again.
What was unusual about Maryam's situation was her willingness to talk about it. Despite its religious imprimatur, temporary marriage has never been very popular in Iran. Tradition dictates that women be virgins when they marry; even when they're not, they should pretend to be. Many Iranians regard sigheh as little more than legalized prostitution, especially since it is an advertisement that a woman is not a virgin. In some circles, even illicit sex is considered better — as long as it can be kept secret.
But now an odd mix of feminists, clerics and officials have begun to discuss sigheh as a possible solution to the problems of Iran's youth. An extraordinarily large number of young people (about 65 percent of the population is under 25), combined with high unemployment, means that more couples are putting off marriage because they cannot afford it. Sigheh legally wraps premarital sex in an Islamic cloak.
"First, relations between young men and women will become a little bit freer," said Shahla Sherkat, editor of Zanan, a feminist monthly."Second, they can satisfy their sexual needs. Third, sex will become depoliticized. Fourth, they will use up some of the energy they are putting into street demonstrations. Finally, our society's obsession with virginity will disappear."
Even conservatives like Muhammad Javad Larijani, a Berkeley-educated former legislator, favor temporary marriage. As Mr. Larijani put it: "What's wrong with temporary marriage? You've got a variation of it in California. It's called a partnership. Better to have it legal than have it done clandestinely in the streets."
Though most of Iran's reformist publications have closed in recent months, newspapers and magazines that remain have begun to discuss the issue. A recent front-page article in a weekly tabloid, "World of Medicine," about a chador-wearing, AIDS-infected prostitute who took pleasure in infecting her clients included a recommendation on avoiding infection: take a temporary wife.
Advocates of temporary marriage also point out that children of such unions are legitimate and entitled to a share of the father's inheritance.
More rarely, unrelated couples have used nonsexual "temporary marriage" in order to live or work in close quarters.
But the popular response to such a sweeping societal solution has not been favorable. After "The Hope of Youth," a weekly, ran an article in favor of sigheh, readers called and wrote in with scathing attacks.
"I am 23 years old," one unnamed young man told the paper. "If I temporarily marry a young woman for three years and then divorce her, would anyone be willing to marry her? It would be impossible that any man would want to have a family with this woman."
Another unidentified caller was quoted as saying: "Those who want to promote temporary marriage don't understand that they would be promoting prostitution. Who would be there to be a father for the children from temporary marriage?"
The paper wrote back: "The reality is that young men and women do have sexual relationships. If these relationships are defined within an Islamic framework, we will not have the danger of prostitution."
As for what to do about children of temporary marriages, the editor added, "It is not so complicated to use birth control anymore."
This is not the first time that people in the Islamic Republic have tried to promote sigheh. The first person to discuss it openly was none other than Ali Akbar Hashemi Rafsanjani when he was president. In a sermon in 1990, he called sexual desire a God-given trait. Don't be "promiscuous like the Westerners," he advocated, but use the God-given solution of temporary marriage.
That sermon brought thousands of protesters to Parliament, in part because a married man can have as many temporary wives as he wants, and up to four permanent ones, and can break the contract anytime he wants, whereas women cannot. Many secular Iranians are irked by what they perceive to be the hypocrisy of clerics, who have made ample use of temporary marriage over the years but are adamantly opposed to premarital or extramarital sex.
Clerics seldom talk about their experiences. But in the book "Law of Desire," Shahla Haeri, a Boston University cultural anthropologist and granddaughter of an ayatollah, cited interviews with clerics.
One proclaimed that because God banned alcohol, he allowed temporary marriage.
Ms. Haeri, who lectured on the subject in Iran, said that neither the clerics nor leading thinkers had begun to analyze its implications in a coherent way. "If they are really serious," she said, "they should study the matter in the context of sexuality, birth control, sexually transmitted diseases, morality, religion and gender relations."
But what of Maryam and Karim?
He gave her clothes and a little money from time to time during their "marriage," but not the gold coin he had promised her with each renewal of their contract. He told her she was beautiful, something her husband had never done. She cleaned his house occasionally and even met his brothers. He met her mother — who, twice divorced, had married (permanently) for the third time. They kept their temporary marriage a secret, even from her.
"She knew that I was with a man," Maryam said, "but would have preferred I was with him illegally than his sigheh."
In fact, Maryam and Karim are not the couple's real names. Maryam remains so ambivalent about what she did that she asked that not even their first names be used.
In the fifth year of their relationship, Karim began to call less frequently. Maryam went to a fortuneteller, who told her that Karim was to be married. When she confronted him, he said that it was over. After their contract ran out, he married a virgin chosen by his parents.
Because of her divorce, she said, "he told me right from the start that he couldn't marry me permanently. But he treated me so nicely that I thought things would change."
Maryam was so much in love that she even offered — half jokingly — to become Karim's temporary wife again after he was permanently married. He refused.
"I think sigheh is good, very good," she said, but added that she would not do it again. "I want to get married permanently now, as soon as possible."
- Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/08/2009
德黑兰够残暴,但还有比这更残暴无情的,那就是伊斯兰黑老大沙特王国以及周边的阿拉伯国家。按说沙特才是真正恐怖国家,但美国人要捡个软柿子捏,那就先灭个阿富汗伊朗再说。 - posted on 02/08/2009
这篇调侃文字倒把一些脉络理清晰了。
新月弯刀----伊斯兰是怎样发迹的
来自: 淫游诗人
......
在讲伊斯兰之前,我们有必要先回顾一下阿拉伯的历史。
最早的阿拉伯人是半岛沙漠里的贝都因人,他们和伽南人,犹太人是亲戚,都是
闪族的一支,贝都因人世代以抢劫为业,兼职养骆驼。直到公元六世纪,他们只是被罗马
人,波斯人赶来赶去的几百个山贼部落,穷困异常,也没什么文化,连文字都没有,混得
比犹太人还惨。
那时的阿拉伯人信的是多神教,各部落的偶像除了安拉,还拜星拜月(由于可以
理解的原因,太阳被这些沙漠部落视为残暴的象征),拜鹰拜公鸡,加上基督教,犹太教
,明教拜火教,老阿拉伯人的宗教生活是相当的热闹。
各部落共同的圣物是放在麦加城里的一块黑陨石,安放此宝的地方叫克尔白(cl
ub?),尖顶四方屋的意思,由麦加传统老大倭马亚家族掌管。
所谓“穷山恶水出刁民”,阿拉伯的各部落由于太穷,互相偷抢和部族仇杀就成
了他们主要的日常活动和非常高尚的职业,弟兄们打得不亦乐乎。
古阿拉伯赞美诗云:
我们以劫掠为职业,
劫掠我们的敌人和邻居。
倘若无人可供我们劫掠,
我们就劫掠自己的兄弟。
一个没钱,没文化,不团结,只会乱抢的民族,生存都是个问题。
这就是穆罕穆德的伟大之处,他不但统一了阿拉伯人的思想,建立了国家,保证
了本民族的生存间,还把新月旗插满了半个世界。
穆哥生于570年(中国南北朝时期,这一年在中国发生了佛道大PK,大和尚在辩论
中把道爷们三振出局)的麦加。他自小孤苦,到处打工,25岁时娶了守寡的四十岁老板娘
才发达起来。
可穆哥有更高的理想:为民族找到出路。
于是四十岁的时候,他没事就到麦加城外的一个山洞里学达摩面壁,结果想参考
犹太教和基督教,发明了伊斯兰教这个强大的思想武器。
据说穆哥开悟的时候,浑身直抽,满身大汗吐白沫,穆斯林称那是真主在给他开
窍,西方人说他其实是羊角疯。
这个我们存而不论,中国现在的农村也出过不少“嘎”一声抽过去,缓过来就声
称开了天眼,从此走上跳神算卦富裕路的民间大师,可理想境界比穆哥差太多了。
且说穆哥下得山来,开始宣讲“除真主外,再无神灵,穆罕默德是真主的使者”
一神教总纲。
大海航行靠舵手,以前你们各信各的,现在都信我的吧。
穆哥先从身边的亲友秘密传销,前后发展了老婆岳父堂弟等等,因为他以前在当
地就很有威信,人称从不说瞎话,而且教义简单,反对阶级压迫,所以试销对路以后,影
响越来越大,信徒越来越多,,这就引起了原老大倭马亚家族的恐慌和迫害,老穆几乎性
命难保,穆斯林革命陷入最低潮。
倒是北边尼加斯的基督徒不顾麦加人的威胁,收留过他们一阵子。
郁闷之中,穆哥只好学摩西上山,到天上进修了一次,这个过程却非常有天方夜
谭的香艳:
据穆哥称,有一天夜里他去参观黑圣石,biu的一声,就给圣石摄到了犹太圣地-
---耶路撒冷的哭墙底下,那里有一匹人头马身有翼兽,叫布拉格。此兽美女头,马身,孔
雀尾,还长俩大翅膀,不要太炫。穆哥象哈里波特一样骑着她飞上了七重天,得到天使长
加百利的亲切接见并指导工作,会后还公费旅游了一大圈。
这次high翻了的出差,教史上叫做“夜行”事件。
而十年后(627年),金蝉子唐三藏的待遇就差太远了:同样是出远差,佛祖就别
说美女马航班了,连软卧都不给报销,就分给他四个劳改犯当跟班,几万里地让他腿儿着
去!
这还怕小陈路上闷得慌,一路上派无数妖魔鬼怪,下乡干部跟这老实孩子淘气,
不是想细吹细打地吃了他就是要强奸他。到了地头又没眼色不会行贿,让俩管库的用没字
的练习本儿涮一把,到底上下打点,吃饭的家伙都塞了红包,才算捧几本真经回来。
佛祖跟真主比起来,实实在在是个小气鬼加腐败头子。
气得后来朱元璋在郭恒案里说:象伽叶阿难这样的蠹吏,屡教不改,挖膝盖挑脚筋
剜眼睛割小弟弟,回头当个看库门的,还照贪不误,不剥皮揎草能行吗?
有够狠。
真是的。
回头说穆哥虽然镀了一层金,还是混不出来,都快过不下去了。
然而天无绝人之路,墙里开花墙外香,一个飞来的机会让穆哥和伊斯兰教绝处逢生
:622年北边雅特里布城(即后来的先知之城麦地那)的两个阿拉伯部落打得不可开交,基
本上要同归于尽,就请穆大过去劝架评理,还同意都听他的。
正愁没开销,天上掉下个粘豆包。穆哥赶紧带着徒弟从麦加跑去维和,宣传“穆斯
林皆兄弟”,大家要紧密团结在以穆哥为核心的伊斯兰周围。
教史称这次转移根据地为“希志来”,出奔之意。
因为从麦加带去不少徒弟,当地又有很广泛的犹太一神教基础,穆哥的和平主张也
是人心所向,所以他很快反客为主,变成了麦地那政教合一的领袖。
穆哥一朝权在手,便把令来行----先抢了一把以前欺负他的麦加老乡。
麦加人气得以倭马亚家族为首,找了N多部落去揍老穆,不但打伤穆哥,还包围了麦
地那。但有个波斯人给穆哥出主意,在城外挖了一条大沟跟他们干耗,因为攻城的都是古
典的山贼,攻城是需要大型设备的技术活,他们不专业,所以麦加团伙没处下嘴,耗光了
粮草,只好撤退。
这就是伊斯兰教的奠基之战:壕沟之战。
此后有着统一思想,坚定信仰和狂热抢劫欲望的穆斯林爆发了强大的战斗力和号召
力,很快转入战略反攻,穆哥冲锋在前,不但反过来征服了麦加,连前老大倭马亚家也投
降归顺。
值得一提的是,因为伊斯兰教其实是犹太教的阿拉伯版,伊斯兰承认亚拉伯罕是阿
拉伯和犹太人共同的祖先,尊重新旧两约,对犹太先知摩西和基督教老大耶酥的救世主称
号也是承认的,还要尊一声前辈。只不过伊斯兰宣布《旧约》和《新约》不完整且被篡改
了,《古兰经》才是全本正版。
穆哥还留了个心眼:为防止后来人有样学样,伊斯兰宣布穆罕穆德是最后一位下凡
的救世主:以后再想混进来的不批了。
这就是救世主不扩散条约,搞得伊朗和朝鲜很不服气,日本的麻原彰晃和中国的李
红痣也用实际行动表示了强烈的不满。
所以穆哥在麦地那发迹的时候,为了统一战线,曾给前辈----犹太教的拉比送去秋
天的菠菜,说都是一家人,合了吧。那知犹太学者廋驴不倒架,看不起穆哥是文盲,用《
旧约》把穆哥考了个发昏第十一,然后好好地挤兑他一番,还勾结麦加人打他。
没文化就是让人BS啊,连混江湖也得讲学历。
穆哥气得把他们杀了600个,没收财产撵北边去,就此宣布和犹太教分道扬镳:把礼
拜日从犹太的星期六改成星期五,改拜阿拉伯的传统圣物黑陨石,朝拜的方向也从耶路撒
冷改成圣石所在地麦加,耶城降格成第三圣地,排在麦加和麦地那之后。
被犹太人伤了自尊以后,穆哥从此发了个狠:剑锋所指,要么改信伊斯兰教,要么
弄死你。
这叫一手拿着古兰经,一手拿着真主的宝剑。
郁闷的人惹不得啊。 - Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/08/2009
玛雅看来没有历史眼光:-)美国当年不是也把巫婆处死,也有《红字》? 也有断背?10年前,怀俄明大学的那个gay男孩不就被打死了?
人类如果没有法律的制约,都是一样残暴的。 - Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/09/2009
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玛雅 wrote:
德黑兰够残暴,但还有比这更残暴无情的,那就是伊斯兰黑老大沙特王国以及周边的阿拉伯国家。按说沙特才是真正恐怖国家,但美国人要捡个软柿子捏,那就先灭个阿富汗伊朗再说。 - Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/09/2009
好贴好贴。厌恶民主人权的人士有好去处了。 - posted on 02/09/2009
xw wrote:
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玛雅 wrote:
德黑兰够残暴,但还有比这更残暴无情的,那就是伊斯兰黑老大沙特王国以及周边的阿拉伯国家。按说沙特才是真正恐怖国家,但美国人要捡个软柿子捏,那就先灭个阿富汗伊朗再说。
不喜欢伊朗的某些制度和方式,so what? 所以,美军就可以开过去,去杀人,输入所谓西方人权,把伊朗给修理过来?
不喜欢你玛雅的某些生活方式,so what? 所以,老虻就可以买通道德打手,修理你一通,把你硬扳过来,让你按他的意愿去生活?
我得说,XW这次这个问号画得很好啊。这确实不是一个简单的问题。:)
- Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/09/2009
当政治和文化两个不同性质的问题绞缠在一起的时候,不存在非黑即白的简单答案。叫两句民主口号解决不了任何问题,贴标签就更显得油脂了。:-)
如果通奸被一个社会的多数人认为是一种罪恶,民主能解决什么问题? - Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/10/2009
德黑兰的天黑,英美是祸根。上世纪50年代,英美颠覆了伊朗民主选举的非宗教政府,把伊朗国王重新扶上台,换取对伊朗石油的控制。接下来伊朗的急速全面西化最终导致了伊斯兰革命。
- Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/10/2009
Want to comment on Shirley Jackson's The Lottery? - Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/10/2009
Her 靴子 is very cute.
- Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/10/2009
你看,只要稍一拨撩,咖啡那些在万恶的垄断资本国家生活的左派的政治正确朗诵就开始了。 ;) - posted on 02/10/2009
玛雅的贴子也发端于感性,应该说有感性的正确。但那些照片,恐怕
是网上传了一段时间的,,,如果是理性地谈,就不是这样。
其实,美国人私下谈话与公开的大不一样,不是什么政治正确啦,就
是那么一回事,大家心知肚明而已。
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我当然不在意什么政治正确,左右也没趣。就事论事吧,美国与沙特
,就是指使以利色也不会去“干”,不是什么利益。就是沙特本是个
软柿子涅。王国总是好的,依马基雅维里说,远方保护国代理,专制
地区宜于专制,这样,伊斯兰王国总比世俗民主国好管。
比如,巴基斯坦军事独裁,就听话了。民选了,布托炸死了,就麻烦
了。估计不久又得军独,可惜立不了另一个傀儡国王。
故而就麻烦不断。。。这么说,不会太“利益”或“政治正确”,也
不“左”了吧? - Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/10/2009
在国际事物中,很多冲突是出于安全利益和宗教文化等原因,万事都要划分左右也难,当然标签主义者除外,他们大概能在十字军的战争里分出左右。 :-)
扣帽子,贴标签是啥时候开始流行的? - Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/10/2009
gz wrote:
在国际事物中,很多冲突是出于安全利益和宗教文化等原因,万事都要划分左右也难,当然标签主义者除外,他们大概能在十字军的战争里分出左右。 :-)
扣帽子,贴标签是啥时候开始流行的?
人家那是数字化的二值思维方式,只认识0和1,左和右,黑和白?:)
- Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/10/2009
I guess their thinking is
" I am for freedom, and you DARE to argue with me. You must be anti-freedom"
- Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/11/2009
哈哈哈!咖啡的左撇子们真逗。
“要喝什么?水还是尿?”
“非水即尿?什么二值思维。给老子来杯半水半尿!”
“喝尿是一种文化,就像处死同性恋和通奸犯一样。不要把你们的文化霸权强加于人!”
你要让他们移民伊朗,保证痛哭流涕,忙不迭打退党报告。 - Re: The sky over Tehran is dark 德黑兰的天是黑色的天posted on 02/11/2009
ok, ok,
either my way, either Iran way
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